I’ve also noticed that many of the men in successful poly situations tend to be, in the words of the article, “Burning Man hippie types.” Though I’ve never been to Burning Man (I don’t do hot, dry, or dirty), I move through a lot of those kinds of crowds and I’ve noticed that there’s a higher percentage of men who can identify and talk about how they feel than in the general population. There are more men who can hold space for other people’s emotions. And there are more men who understand how to work with feelings instead of hiding from them. Personally, I’d love to see those skills spread to other communities. I think it’ll make the world a happier place.